Author Archives: stoptheabuse

About stoptheabuse

I am a divorced mother who survived years of emotional, verbal, physical and sexual abuse and am no longer with a man who has a cluster B personality disorder including narcissism. I am a survivor and so is my young child.

Divorce: A Narcissist’s revenge

I spent the afternoon at my lawyer’s today and she got an email from my ex’s attorney.  It is not surprising to me, but just reminds me of everything that is wrong with the family court system and affirms why … Continue reading

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Things I have learned about parenting with a narcissist

Today I thought I would compile a list of 5 things I have learned about parenting with a narcissist.  These items are in no particular order.  No matter what he will always be the better parent in his eyes and … Continue reading

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Life after a narcissist and co-parenting

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#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou #MaybeHeDoesntDeserveYou

A powerful campaign has been around for awhile #maybehedoesnthityou.  Women are tweeting how their intimate partner emotionally abuses them and it is making more aware of the dangers behind emotional abuse.  I think it extends far past just men and can … Continue reading

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PTSD is Real

My heart is breaking I see you disassociating I see the fear in your eyes The sea is not calm and your heart is broken You hear noises, but they remind you of the past and not the present You … Continue reading

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Mending a broken heart

I see your heart is aching, but I don’t know how to fix it. I see your young eyes looking up to me for guidance and it hurts. Your innocence was taken to young. You are triggered and no one … Continue reading

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Parental Alienation Syndrome or DV by Proxy?

Through my journey with Landry I have had learned several things I never intended to know about mainly: PTSD, parental alienation, domestic violence by proxy and Cluster B personality disorders and a horrible court system.  We have navigated these uncertain … Continue reading

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